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Is Anger Easier To Tolerate Than Deep Sadness? - 04/24/2010
Six ways to Anger management through dealing with the underlying sadness. Anger makes you feel strong when you are sad and feeling rejected. But it pushes you away from the person who want to feel close with. Manage anger by getting in touch with your sadness and that of your partner. Intimacy through sharing rather than defensiveness does away with negative anger.Keeping Silent About Your Feelings May Predispose You to Irritable Bowel Syndrome - 04/24/2010
Irritable Bowel syndrome is linked to self-harming ways of dealing with emotional abuse in women- such as self-silencing and self-blame. Dr. Jeanette Raymond suggests 5 ways you can learn to communicate your thoughts and feelings without risking rejection, loss or abuse, and lessen your IBS episodes.
Twelve Relationship Stress Factors That Can Bring On Dermatitis - 03/30/2010
Dermatitis or eczema is brought on by long term stress in insecure relationships, and a need to feel successful and in control without having to feel negative emotions. Nancy had all the 12 signs of vulnerability to stress that make her a candidate for dermatitis, including anxiety, impatience, disappointment with people and a strong desire to go it alone without feeling negative emotions. Read her story and find out what you can do to alleviate your chances of getting eczema.Refocus Your Anger and Create Power From Secure Relationships - 03/30/2010
Change your anger due to relationship stress into a positive energy that helps you connect to others, feel equal to them and stops you from going to that victim place. Feel your power and strength using anger to unite with others towards a common goal. Read how Reuben shifted from toxic and destructive anger to healthy and constructive use of angry energy.Anger is Necessary For Survival- It's How You Use it That Counts! - 02/04/2010
Anger has a survival function. Appropriate use of anger can transform you from a doormat to an assertive person relating to others on an equal playing field. Without anger you would be squashed into feeling like a victim and acting like one too ! Read Carrie's story about how anger saved her from having her identity and enjoyment in life crushed. It literally enabled her to survive in a strong, self-empowered manner.
Ease Low Back Pain With Forgiveness - Make It Worse By Holding Onto Anger - 01/31/2010
Holding onto anger makes you tense, making back pain more intense and last for longer periods. The stress of anger and pain add to the suffering.Forgiveness but not pardon works in the brain by reducing stress, letting go the anger and accelerating the recovery from chronic low back pain. Read Garret's story of a life time of pain and how the two tips in this article can improve the quality of his life.
What's The Best Way of Expressing Your Anger? - 01/30/2010
Anger can drive people apart or it can be a catalyst for opening up a channel of communication that brings intimacy and clarity. Find out the consequences of expressing your anger out loud versus giving the silent treatment, and create a better of communication that reduces stress and allows for stable, secure and satisfying relationships.
Angry That You Can't Get What You Want? - 01/30/2010
Relationship conflict becomes difficult to manage when both partners feel trapped and manipulated by the other, like Justin who refused to give himself permission to enjoy things he could get for himself, and Bernice who refused to be put in the role of the bad guy who spoiled Justin's life. Read the 4 tips on managing the conflict by acknowledging and taking care of your own needs.
Turning Relationship Insecurity into Connective Security. - 07/20/2009
Anger management for relationship insecurity. If you feel invisible and dropped when your partner is busy or talking to other people, it's like you just got disconnected. It can make you angry and resentful which creates a rift in the relationship. Get tips on reconnecting with your partner no matter whether you are together or doing different things in different places.
Angry That Your Partner Isn't Who You Signed Up For? - 04/30/2009
Anger management for couples who are tired of doing all the work in the relationship. Ease frustration and resentment by communicating your needs in ways that will get you what you want. Find the tenderness in your partner, reduce the anger and disappointment and connect in satisfying ways
Are You Angry That Your Partner Misunderstands Your Motives? - 04/17/2009
Anger management for couples who are fed up with their partners continually misunderstanding their motives. When innocent questions are interpreted as judgmental accusations it is enough to drive you round the bend. Find out how to get out of this vicious cycle of couple miscommunication
Who Is Your Internal Terrorist? - 01/24/2009
Dream interpretation. Nightmare analysis. Are you having nightmares about being terrorized? Are you feeling powerless and unsafe? Your dream may be an invitation to turn the power you give to your internal terrorist and use it to find your own inner resolve and strength. Read how Freda's critical mother became her inner terrorist and how her dream helped her transform the critical messages into ones of validation.
Prove You Love Me! - 12/13/2008
Anger management for couples. Couples conflict comes to a head. Despite five years of living with Martin, Tanya was still competing with Martin’s mother for the top spot in his attentions. She had waited long enough to find the right person. Martin had seemed just right for the job. He was warm, loving, loyal and a good listener. The only trouble was, Tanya wasn’t willing to share. It had to be all or nothing. He had to give up his mother and choose Tanya to prove his love. Torn between being the apple of his mother’s eye and the love of Tanya’s life, he was overwhelmed with conflict. He didn't want to be independent of his mother only to be dependent on Tayna.
Is Anger Showing Up in Your Skin Breakouts? - 11/28/2008
Anger management for health and satisfying relationships. What does your skin breakout mean? Maggie broke out in huge red, raw, itchy welts, all over her face, neck and chest, just as it was time to go into work. She was off the hook. There was no way she could go into work looking like this. She certainly couldn't work on clients in this condition. But what would it be like when she faced her colleagues the next day?
Go To Therapy Or Else We Are Through! - 11/28/2008
Anger Management for effective couples communication. Suspicion drives couples apart. "I've told you a million times, I'm not interested in Al. He's just my boss. You’re screwed up. I can’t take this anymore. You’re so suspicious it’s becoming impossible to have a normal relationship with you. You need help.” accused Josie. “Go to therapy, or else we are through!"
Is Envy Getting In Your Way of Relating To Your Loved One? - 11/18/2008
Anger management for extreme envy. Lynn's uncontrollable sobs felt like accusations. Vicky translated the crying into " you're mean and cruel, you're a bad mother, he will tell his father and his father will take his side." Then came the guilt. It came in torrents. She couldn't get home fast enough, cuddle her son, kiss him to death and give him whatever he wanted.
You Listen To Every One Else Except Me! - 11/16/2008
Anger management in couples communicaton.“ I don’t know why you bother asking my opinion on anything. You don’t take me seriously. You make me feel that my ideas are worthless, until of course they are corroborated by someone else who has authority in your eyes. If I am so dumb why did you marry me?” Valerie pleaded.
Anger Makes You Fat and Keeps You Fat! - 11/08/2008
Emotional Eating. Anger management to prevent weight gain. The weight she carried acted as armor against feeling abused, taken advantage of, and dismissed. Her fat was the one part of her she could trust. Emotional constipation was Mimi’s sign of power and resilience. She dealt with overflowing gunky confused emotions by converting the trash into fat